13 Tips For Being Charismatic That Are Seriously Helpful

If that sounds good, then you might be wondering what it means, exactly, to be charismatic. “Think of the best salesperson you know, the person who is able to fit into any group and situation, or the person who is so witty they are able to think of funny and profound things on the fly,” says psychologist Dr. Nikki Martinez. “This is charisma, this is intelligence, and this is a quality that will take these people far in whatever area they choose to apply this skill.”

Once you know how to work it, so to speak, charisma can be used during a job interview to win over your potential boss. Or on a first date. Or when hanging out with friends — especially when they need someone caring, empathetic (and fun) to hang out with. Read on for a few easy ways to turn up your charm, so you can be all that and more.

1. Prioritize Self-Care

Before you can go off into the world inspiring and impressing people, you’ve got to lay the groundwork by focusing on yourself. As spiritual life coach Tina “Kat” Courtney tells me, this will require lots and lots of self-care. While that means different things to different people, it might include exercising, getting lots of sleep, and eating well. Whatever makes you feel your best.

2. Say “Hey” To People Throughout The Day

It’s so tempting to trudge through life without looking up. And hey, sometimes that’s all you can do. But there’s no denying the benefits of occasionally making eye contact, smiling, and greeting people. “Over time, you will find more people will be drawn to you because you exude happiness,” intuitive Davida Rappaport tells Bustle. “That is magnetic. Happiness is charismatic.”

3. Pay Attention To Your Posture

Body language is everything when making a first impression (or second, or third). So don’t forget to pay attention to your posture. “If you are slumped into your body, that shows you are tired or your self-esteem may be dipping,” Rappaport says. While it may or may not be true, it never hurts to give off an air of confidence by standing up straighter.

4. Be As Supportive As Possible

Trustworthy, supportive people are great to be around, so go ahead and work on being that kind of gal. One way to start, as NYC-based relation therapist Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW tells me, is by calling up friends to check on them. Ask how they are, listen, let them vent. I promise they’ll truly appreciate it.

5. Be Proud Of Your Accomplishments